Life is Only What You Make of It

Hey everyone!

Two updates in a week? in two days?! Say what?!

My recent updates have been inspiring me to up my game because I have, admittedly, let it slide for long enough and there was only going to be so long that I was going to use grief as a reason little realising that the only way out is often through your circumstances. So if trying to write more is going to help elevate me even further then so be it, I'll commit the resources I can to do so.

I believe that life is only what you make of it so if you are living a life today that you are not happy with then you gotta ask yourself a question: -

What am I doing to change it? Am I doing anything? Or am I waiting for someone else to do something?

These questions, once answered, will help you paint a picture of the steps you need to take next. Never mind the bigger picture, oftentimes you only need focus on doing the next right thing to change your life...

Only What You Make It

Nowhere do I claim to know everything and nowhere do I claim to be some kind of guru. Most times, I write from the heart about what I believe in with a view to passing it on to others in the hope it will help them see their circumstances from just one more perspective. One more. Just one.

A change of heart often is only ever one decision different, just as a change of lifestyle starts with one decision different. Then another. And then another.

It's easier to think too much about the bigger picture and visualise what life will look like when the change has manifested itself and then bedded into your schedule. But that can be counter-productive when too much time is spent thinking bigger picture instead of smaller.

Think Smaller

Here's a practice for you. Take the habit you are trying to change, any habit at all and then think about how you want it to be different. Ask yourself what you need to do next to start the ball rolling that direction...

Do that.

Those two words, the concept behind them changed my outlook dramatically as I started to cease thinking about the grand scheme so much and instead started breaking down the changes I wanted to see in my life into smaller chunks of decisions opting to focus no further than the next one. It's amazing how much pressure you take off yourself when you realise that to focus on the next right decision makes it easier, over time, to do the next right decision, then the next one after that.

Repetition.

Repeating your different decisions will begin to tap into the brain's neuroplasticity carving out different pathways for the neurons to fire down. What starts off as facing a monumental mountain to be climbing, will soon become a rapid ascent to the top of success in the area you are looking to change; if you are willing to apply yourself daily to changing a little bit at a time in the direction of your choosing.

Life only gets better when you do.

Better at dealing with setbacks, better at receiving rejection, disappointment, whatever presents itself as an obstacle to your destination. The better you become and responding to, rather than reacting to, the circumstances that happen around you the more you will see growth happen in your life.

Final Thought

If even a fraction of this lands for you and you start to think about your problem differently then pretty soon your problem itself is going to look different. More manageable. Beatable even.

What seemed like a mountain yesterday becomes the highway you're cruising down tomorrow all in a bid to get better at what you do. It's not about feeding the ego, but rather about realising that as you learn more about yourself and your genetic makeup, you'll begin to realise the habits that are hindering your progress and separate them from those that help it. From there you'll better be able to distinguish the situations that are catalysts also to those two and find yourself able to respond in kind.

Take it easy!

===TLP===